Why the “Not-Feminist” Feminist Trend Is Frightening

When I think of “Not-Feminists,” usually images of older men, probably not very educated. Older women, like from my grandmother’s generation. Some people who didn’t go to college, or maybe high school. Hillbillies. The religious right. Sarah Palin types.

What’s disturbing is the new generation of Anti-Feminists are young women. Young women with careers. Seemingly educated.

They also believe that they should have the right to vote. They believe in “equality.” They believe they can be whatever they want without feminist principles.

Via Women Against Feminism

But they aren’t “feminists.”

Sure, Taylor Swift is one of these not-feminist feminists… back in 2012, she said in an interview:

I don’t really think about things as guys versus girls. I never have. I was raised by parents who brought me up to think if you work as hard as guys, you can go far in life.

She’s bubbly, talks about boys, and I get it. When I was younger, I tended to dumb down my demeanor. In fact, it’s a bad habit (drives my father bananas) I still do to this day. (See my video from yesterday). Maybe she knows what feminism is, but knows very well what identifying as one would mean. Maybe she didn’t want to politicize her work because that would cost her the “nice, non-threatening girl” image.

She’s not alone. Lana Del Rey is not interested in feminist issues. Lady Gaga “hails” men. Shalene Woodley says you can’t take power away from men.

“For me, the issue of feminism is just not an interesting concept,” she says. “I’m more interested in, you know, SpaceX and Tesla, what’s going to happen with our intergalactic possibilities. Whenever people bring up feminism, I’m like, god. I’m just not really that interested.”  says Lana Del Rey, “My idea of a true feminist is a woman who feels free enough to do whatever she wants.”

At first I thought, “Whoa, people need to get themselves a dictionary.” Here’s the Webster definition of “feminism”


noun \ˈfe-mə-ˌni-zəm\

: the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities

: organized activity in support of women’s rights and interests

Do we need a new word for “feminism” then?

Somehow, the word “feminist” got confused with misandry. I’m going to make an educated guess, and say the dominant group (men) felt threatened and mistook requests like, “I’d like to own property and vote” for “I want world domination.” The feminist brand is that of an angry woman, who probably hates men. Has a chip on her shoulder. Doesn’t shave. Wants to be a man.

I’d like to say, yeah, let’s get a new word! Woo hoo! New word! But the fact is, it’s called “feminism” because at the moment, women do not have the same rights and privileges as men. Feminism focuses on how to get women the same rights as men. Not more rights. The same. They don’t focus on getting men the same rights as women, because you know, why would a man want to be subjected to slut-shaming or having his wages cut by a third, even though he got better grades in college.

What needs to happen, like with any misconception, like remember when smoking was marketed as being “good for you?” No? Yeah, because people campaigned heavily for the truth: smoking is bad for you. The truth is feminism means men and women should have equal rights and opportunities.

We need to talk about what feminism actually is, rather than pulling a Taylor Swift and saying we’re not feminists, but we do believe in feminist principles.

Pretty or Chic?

I used to go to this early morning support group. 6am early. In order to get there, I would just roll out of bed, throw on a sweatshirt, ratty jeans, sneakers and a baseball cap and go. For months, I did this. Then I got a job which required me to be there at 8am, so I woke up early and got dressed, put on makeup, etc. before leaving the house.

“Woah! You’re… pretty!” said one of the guys in the group.

Sure, it makes sense. We ALL look “prettier” when we dress up and wear makeup. The late Isabella Blow was notorious for using fashion to feel better, “If I feel really low, I go to see Philip [Treacy], cover my face [with his hats] and feel fantastic… Wearing a hat is like cosmetic surgery.” Blow would transform herself from what some perceived as “plain” into an exotic beauty with the extraordinary use of hats and clothes.

“If I feel really low, I go to see Philip [Treacy], cover my face [with his hats] and feel fantastic… Wearing a hat is like cosmetic surgery.” ~Isabella Blow

On the flip side, think Kim Kardashian or Lana Del Rey. They are both “beautiful”, and they obviously put a lot of effort in their image, but do you think they have great style? Beauty does not automatically give you style.

This year, with the rise of normcore, dressing down has never been more trendy. Baggy jeans, the more ripped, the better paired with Birkenstocks is practically the most trendy thing you can wear this summer. The no-makeup look is also super hot this summer. After several years of over-the-top styling and six-inch platform shoes, I do have to say dressing down is a welcome shift in trends. However, I have to wonder if the people who really carry it off, carry it off because they’re… pretty.

To put it into perspective, if, for my outfit posts, I were to wear the same exact outfit as pictured above, would it get pinned all over Pinterest?

No. I probably would just look like I gave up on life.

Now, this by no means is a ploy to get compliments or support. I’m completely comfortable with my looks …and my insecurities.

But it does make me wonder where the line between beauty and style lies.

Is a person beautiful because they have great style? Does a person have great style because they’re beautiful? Or is it their personality that makes them have great style and/or beauty?

Where do you draw the line between beauty and style?

Pop in to the Pop Up Shop: Haus of Half Hitch

Sometimes when people go on vacation, they just go. There is a hole where that person was for a bit.

But sometimes, something else comes in, even for a minute and it’s a pleasant surprise.

Half Hitch Goods, a retailer that normally lives online or on an old VW Bus in Hayes Valley, San Francisco, moved into the Birch Floral shop while it’s owners went away for the month. No, we’re not talking squatting. We’re talking pop up shop.

Carrie Cailoutette, the founder of Half Hitch, contacted a few friends, fashion designers The Podolls (who we know, from a previous post), jewelry retailer Metier, and artist Emily Proud, to collaborate for the month of July to create Haus of Half Hitch. The thing you notice first about the shop is that everything is beautiful with a rich quality… not rich like, the Vatican… but rich like full. Wool blankets soft to the touch. A set of linen kitchen towels printed by hand. Easy, yet high quality clothes by the Podolls are complimented by an interesting mix of new and estate jewelry from Metier. If you’re looking for art, you really should not miss Emily Proud’s watercolors, as they are subtly beautiful and also on the affordable side.

The collaboration is true in every way, Metier helped with the merchandizing, Emily helps with the sales, coordinating everyone to help in different ways, and Carrie holds down the fort as she organizes the meeting of four different brands in one space.

“Half Hitch is meant to connect people together through gifting.” says Carrie

Half Hitch Goods is a boutique that specializes in goods with stories.  Most things are made in the US, or imported by Carrie or a few select importers.  “Half Hitch is about shopping for yourself or for someone else and considering that person deeply, considering how a product is made and what materials a product is made with, or the process. And connecting that to the person in some way, whether it’s the country of origin or the materials that the gift is made.”

Perhaps, beyond connecting people through gifts, Half Hitch is connecting people through, well just getting us all offline and in one real live place.

Haus of Half Hitch

Open from July 3rd – 30th, everyday 11-7 Mon – Sat / 12-6 Sun. Located at the Birch floral shop at 564 Hayes St. San Francisco, CA 94133. There will  also be a few more events you might want to stop in for!

  • Saturday July 19th, 2pm – 5pm // Snowcones With The Podolls. A Podolls and Podots trunk show featuring boozy or virgin snowcones served by the design duo themselves.
  • Wednesday July 23rd 7pm – 9pm // Cocktails & Watercolors With Emily Proud
  • Friday July 25th 5pm – 8pm // Gin & Jewels With Metier A special trunk show with Sheri and Trina of Metier showing off one of a kind fine antique pieces as well as modern handmade jewelry.

Samuji: The Pursuit of Timelessness

It may be the middle of summer, but if you’re anything like me, you might already be setting your eyes (and your wish list) to fall.

Recently, I came across this Finnish brand, Samuji, which has exactly the look I’ve been coveting this year. Classic, futuristic, simple, rich in texture and silhouettes, this three-year-old label shares very much the direction many other fashion designers are taking these days: pursuing timelessness.

The pleated trousers with a slightly wide leg and cropped at the ankles look like a pair of slacks had a baby with a pair of culottes. So if you’re afraid to try culottes, but want a pair of updated pants, this is your lucky day. Sumuji’s boxy but lavish wool coats and crisp button down shirts, the collections do have a ring of timelessness, but, in a way, that’s very 2014. I do already own pieces that are in a lot of ways similar to what’s in this collection, but for some reason I still want everything here anyway.

Shoe D’Jour : A Visit to Nine West

My ‘fashion adventures’ at NYFW haven’t been very exciting like last season. I’ve was working really hard on the IFB Evolving Influence Conference, so I missed all the shows I was supposed to go to, then yesterday, the one show I had an invite to, put me in a crowded standing room, and I got claustrophobic and light headed so I left. Sorry, guys… It’s been an exciting, yet tough week.

The one thing I did get to do was  go to the Nine West office… When they invited me to visit their office in New York, I was kind of surprised, really… as it’s a brand that I’m familiar with and have a long history, and they just seemed so big, but it was nice to have the Assistant Creative Director Jennifer Malatesta walk me through the fall collection and tell the stories behind the shoes. I did ask the Jennifer about the mid-market knock offs, as in the Nine West collection, they also had a few ‘inspired by’ pieces, like a Luella inspired bag, and she gave the response that in fashion designs are inspired by each other all the time, and in many cases it’s hard to prove what is what. Which is true, even luxury brands take vintage clothing and copy patterns one-to-one.

Either way, I haven’t decided how I feel about that… as there is a heady, ‘in an ideal situation of course never would I wear a blatant inspired piece of another designer’, and the real life, ‘I like it, and it’s what I can afford.’

Some mid-market brands have been a continuous staple in my fashion diet… Over the last 20 years, I must have purchased 50 pairs of Nine West shoes…. they usually get me at least once a year, sometimes, multiple times, for me, they’ve been the standby, shoes that are affordable, decent and won’t fall apart in three minutes.

I do really like the new collection coming out by Nine West, particularly the thigh high lace up boots, and the bow gloves, they really did a nice job with the shoes this coming autumn and I’m really excited about it coming out… so here take a look… btw… I WILL get green boots this fall. Mark my words.

Loooove this bow glove!

And here is a Luella inspired bag…

Stylish & Eco-Friendly Lounging in Les Lunes

I would like to say that as a fashion blogger, that I am always perfectly dressed at all times. Even if I’m working from home and am not seeing anyone who doesn’t live in the apartment all day.

The truth is, a lot of times I’m wearing sweatpants or leggings or jersey shorts, with a tee shirt, or a tank top in the summer, a cozy sweater in the winter. A comfortable bra. And a ponytail. That is what I wear while blogging most of the time. Heck, I even sleep in one of those Barely There sleep bras.

Les Lunes, a San Francisco based company creates eco-friendly, yet stylish morsels to wear around the house. Most of the pieces are made of rayon from bamboo, a sustainable fabric that is super soft to the touch and almost weightless. The cozy cardigans which are perfect for wearing around the house, yet not too pajama like, if you need to run errands. Hey, there isn’t a day where I don’t leave the house in almost-pajamas.  Might as well make sure they’re stylish pajamas.

Eye Primers and Shadows that Don’t Crease, Fade, or Budge

Eye shadow can be challenging. Due to the constant movement of the eyes and oils in the skin, colors tend to crease, settle into fine lines, and fade into oblivion. Sometimes they even slide down the face and give that pretty panda-eye look, as Anne and Nae pointed out last week when they commented on my long-wear eyeliner post. This sort of thing happens year round but it’s so much worse in the summer heat.

Fortunately, it’s a pretty easy problem to fix. A good primer is key in helping the color of any eye shadow stay true and stay put. Another option is to use shadows with long-wear formulas. Long-wear cream shadows are also excellent for creating a soft, smoky line. Here are my favorites that I use all the time.

Urban Decay Eye Shadow Primer Potion

Urban Decay took their best-selling Eye Shadow Primer Potion ($17) and made it even better this year by adding a bit of shimmery champagne color, so Sin gives more bang for the buck by acting as a primer and eye color. I tend to sweep it on all over from lid to brow and then add a bit of liner or powder shadow here and there. It makes a huge difference. If you don’t want any shimmer in your primer, just grab the original Nude.

Urban Decay Cream Shadow
Urban Decay also makes Cream Shadow ($17), which has tons of pigment and a super long-lasting, whipped, gel-based formula that dries down to a weightless layer of beautifully intense color. It’s very easy to blend and never flakes. Use it on top of Primer Potion for even longer wear. If you want seriously vibrant color that lasts, definitely try these. Twelve shades to choose from, including colors with glitter!

Benefit Creaseless Cream Shadow/Liner
Multiple award-winning Benefit Creaseless Cream Shadow/Liner ($19) works three ways. It provides creamy color as a shadow or liner. It also acts as a primer by making any powder shadow or liner last longer when applied on top of one of these. There are fifteen pretty shades that can be blended together.

shu uemura Cream Eye Shadow
This summer shu uemura introduced Cream Eye Shadows ($30). These feature a waterproof formula that’s silky, creamy, and easy-to-blend with lots of color payoff and buildable coverage. There are nine shades in matte, sheer, and pearly hues.

Bobbi Brown Long-Wear Cream Shadow
Award-winning Bobbi Brown Long-Wear Cream Shadow ($22) goes on incredibly smooth. It has a velvety texture that’s very easy to blend. A whopping twenty shades to choose from. Definitely check out Galaxy, which is a silvery gray with a warm shimmer and sparkle.

Smashbox Waterproof Shadow Liner Duo
And as I mentioned last week, Smashbox has introduced Waterproof Shadow Liner Duos ($25), which work very well as all-over shadow and liner. Each duo includes a lighter and deeper shade in a mirrored compact with air-tight lid. Four duos to choose from.

Pro Tips

Apply eye cream around the eyes but not on the eyelid. That makes the skin oilier so it’s harder for eye makeup to stay in place. Cream shadows work best if you apply them onto clean skin, before powder shadows. For more sheer coverage, apply with your finger. Be sure to keep lids on tight to keep long-wear makeup from drying out.

Next Up

Later this week I’ll be sharing my favorite products for long-lasting lip color, including new long-wear lip glosses from Benefit and Smashbox.

Do Tell

Have you been getting the panda-eye look this summer? Does your eye makeup tend to migrate and fade year round? Do tell.

Sneak Peek at Tory Burch’s Accessories for Spring

Accessories do make the outfit. They’re also easier to shop for, you don’t have to worry about size and fit and you can wear them every day without rising suspicion… (unlike wearing the same skirt three times a week).

This morning I headed out to get a glimpse of Tory Burch’s accessories for Spring. Inspired by Deauville, and I see notes of 1920′s Paris, with rich Art Deco elements in the jewlery, bold statement pieces along with the summery espadrilles and the like. Tory Burch tends to go with the “Opulence, I has it” with the heavy branding, gold tone details mixed with the very feminine and classic. I particularly liked the handbags, a multi colored satchel, the classic speedy were among my favorites. Take a look at my video to see everything in action!

I’m still in my early days of using video, so pardon the shakiness in the first few seconds, it goes away… but this video experimenting has been a lot of fun… so bear with me, getting better at it!

On the Streets: You Can Rely on Red

Yesterday on Twitter, I asked, “Do you think red pants will hang on another season?” The overwhelming response to that was yes! And “Yes, I hope so, because I just bought a pair” and “Yes, I still love my red pants.”

The thing is, no matter what, you can wear red. Any season, any year, and anywhere you wear red, it will make a statement. How often had you made a statement with blue? Or wore your winter yellow? Or spring orange? Unlike black, red brings your skin to life. Just find the right red and you’re set to go. Some people claim they don’t look good in red, but I personally have never met a person who didn’t look AMAZING in red. Perhaps as much as I like to say I don’t have a favorite color, the truth is if I had to pick, it would certianly be red.

The Morning Makeup Routine

Wow, there is nothing more eye opening than laying out every product you use every morning. I swear I chalked myself up as someone who doesn’t really wear all that much makeup. Last week’s IFB Project assigned us to talk about our makeup routine, and while I’ve shared bits and pieces, never all at once. So here goes.

Makeup and skincare go hand in hand. Without proper skincare, makeup is just a mess. I tend to put a lot into my skincare regime. Over the years it’s gotten more intense as I’m trying to keep my skin as supple as possible. There were a few years when I didn’t have very much money and tried skimping on skincare, and to be honest, it showed. Now if I have to skimp it would be on the makeup itself, and make investment in the skincare.

For some reason I forgot my cleanser, but if you’re curious, I use Cetaphil. It’s gentile, inexpensive and it gets the job done.

  • Loreal Hydrafresh Toner: For the longest time I skipped toners, but they help keep pores in check by picking up anything the cleanser missed as well as adding the first layer of hydration. It’s great for my skintone and once I started regularly using toner, it’s been hard to go back.
  • Algenist Concentrated Reconstructing Serum: I’ve been using the moisturizer (next bullet) and after reading the reviews on Makeup Alley, I had to give this a try. I’ve only been using this a week, but can say that it’s really made my skin supple. It promises to increase radiance, skin density and reduce wrinkle.. all products do, but so far, I’m smitten.
  • Algenist Regenerative Anti-Aging Moisturizer: On my second pot already, and maybe have found the perfect moisturizer after years of looking. Seriously! I’ve been trying all kinds of products and this one really helps my skin look it’s best.
  • Dermalogica Age Renewal Eye Complex– This has rentinol and caffeine so it’s the perfect eye cream to reduce puffiness and dark circles. I use a very tiny amount, so it’s been a few months and I have to say it’s pretty great.
  • StriVectin Eye Concentrate for Wrinkles: StriVectin is known for thier firming properties as it was developed for women with stretchmarks after giving birth. I really don’t know why I use this so much, but I believe it helps firm up the skin under my eyes.

Now once I got all that moisturizing stuff on my face, now for the MAKEUP!

  1. Apply Laura Mercier Tinted Moisturizer with SPF 20: I find that tinted moisturizers tend to be lighter on the skin leaving you look more radiant, so I use this as a way to even out my skintone.
  2. MAC Select Coverup: This little tube goes a long way. I just use a tiny drop under my eyes and around some spots on my skin. It’s a bit heavier than foundation and totally brilliant.
  3. Anastasia Perfect Brow Pencil and Benefit Speedbrow: Having sparse brows means you have to get a great brow pencil and brow gel to set it so it doesn’t smudge throughout the day.
  4. Eyeshadow: Not the best at applying eyeshadow. Now I’m using a Sephora pallet, but could really just use one natural color.
  5. Make Up For Ever Aqua Liner: Because, after 21 years…  I always have the cat eye. Always.
  6. Maybeline Falsies Mascara: After talking about how much I loved Loreal’s Voluminous, someone recommended Falsies. I like Falsies, but will probably go back to Voluminous when I’m done with the tube.
  7. Urban Decay Razor Sharp Finishing Powder (gift) : Used sparingly to take away a bit of shine without looking powdered.
  8. Benefit Cosmetics Dallas: Half blush half bronzer to add a bit of color to my face.
  9. Bare Essentuals Pretty Amazing Lip Color: Quite possibly the best lip color that’s not quite lip gloss, not lipstick, but lush and the color stays for a long time. I can’t quite explain it, but they aren’t lying when they say pretty amazing.

Woah… after looking at this list, I’m a product junkie. What about you? What’s your list look like?